I have wrestling with a question is relationships and looking for clarity.

I was in a relationship for a year. We did split and worked on getting back together for about a month. She was too closed off and scared and finally she ended it.

Its tough because we both love another and in the beginning it was the best girl I have ever me and we were mutually strongly connected. Needless to say it faded. We are both in our early 40s, so as many we both have some fears which was part of the decline when it got real serious.

The question I wrestle with is, the ole say saying. "you were just not meant to be". I have a problem with that statement. Mainly because if you meet the one that IS "meant to be", the issues that caused our decline dont become a factor.

2 people love one another, and wanted to work, and its gone. She has now closed off the chance of making it work now....so I am hard time accepting the fact we were not right for one another. Esp after both of us wanted to get to the point of making it forever. So close but end the end it fails.

I just dont get it