free1, I agree with what alex wrote. You do need the coping strategies first. Please don't assume you are not a candidate for therapy because you don't have the coping strategies yet. You can work on those. I think what is most important now is that your T share with you what she is doing in your therapy and why, so you don't feel that she is ignoring your flashbacks and deep needs. If she let you know she wanted you to build your ability to cope first, it would help you feel less ignored and basically "clueless" about the way she is treating you. Knowledge of your therapy will bring you comfort and confidence. Let us know what happens when you talk to her. Take care.