what sucks is that (for my generation at least) most of our moms are the kind who stayed at home and did the housework or even worked but still did the housework. our parents never really had the mutual respect and division of labor in the household. so i know that i was brought up being shown that boys don't cry, they don't talk about feelings.... the play sports and they act tough. they kill things and hammer things. meanwhile.. we were told to talk and express our feelings. we were told that its okay to cry if you fell down and told that we should cook and clean... etc. so we want someone to talk to but guys were brought up not to talk.... how does that make sense to raise kids like that?

anyways... you know what will help guys a lot?

my boyfriend is reading this book called "The Female Brain" by Louann Brizendine, M.D. He has learned a lot from it. After reading only a few pages he said to me "this makes me feel a lot better about us. it's taught me that the difference we have aren't because we're mismatched... it's who we are." He thinks its an interesting book and has said that every guy should read it. Guys always want to know what women want and how they work.... read that book! it spells it out in plain english!

sorry... that was a long one.