I never ever got any sexual messages or anything inappropriate on any websites I used. I dated in my 30s, a ton, a ton. And then once single again in late 40s (was in long term cohabitation relationship for 9 years). I got stupid things like men lied about their height (much shorter than what they said) and one guy was still married ugh but nothing sexual ever. I asked my daughter after reading on here her dating age would be late 20s and 30s and she never ever got anything of the sorts, no pics, no requests, nothing BUT she heard that other women her age do.

I personally only ever used jdate, match and eharmony (the last only briefly as I immediately met my husband). I concluded that I wasn’t getting sexual messages is because I never ever used free sites. That’s why I keep telling people to not use free sites. Otherwise I can’t even guess why I don’t get these messages and others do? I thought if not free sites then could it be something to do with pictures? I never posted full body shots? Only face. No glamour shots just boring selfie? I wonder if there is connection? I don’t know.