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Originally Posted by Elkino
Hi,
A few weeks ago I found out that my T is I'll and she won't get better anymore. It is devastating... She keeps working for a while still, but I don't know what to do. I have a great relationship with her. We worked together for over 6 years, but I feel like I can't talk about my issues to someone with such a big "issue" herself. She shouldn't be doing that at this point. But that's her decision of course.
I don't know what I have to do next. I know that if she won't be there anymore I'll be completely lost. I depend on her support a little too much. I feel like I should go look for a new therapist already... And it feels so wrong and scary. Nobody can replace her. Also, I don't think I can start the whole process all over again. There are things that took me over 4 to 5 years to finally talk about.
Sad (and maybe a bit wrong) to say but... I'm losing the most important person in my life. I went to see her after my boyfriend committed suicide and my friend was murdered. Having no support at all from my family she was the only one I could talk to. And now I'm losing her too. I don't know what to do...
Just hoping someone can give me some advice somehow... :-(
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It is very sad --but in my view -- not at all wrong to say that you are losing your rock, your key source of support. I would feel a huge sense of groundlessness and anxiety.
I have been in your shoes, quite a few years ago, when my long-term T retired and that had none of the same finality, because I could at least keep in touch in some limited way (cards and a few phone calls). It was a very difficult passage and I didn't feel like anyone could replace him (that's not the point, really) and that I would have to "start over." It stung, believe me.
I think she will want you to make a transition as smoothly as possible and may have some plans for you if you seek her advice. Telling her how much your journey means will help both of you. I have no sage advice, as this must be a very difficult journey for all involved.
My thoughts are with you today.