I don't blame you. It is such curve ball, and unexpected . I can freak myself out about my T with zero evidence, and if this happened to me I wouldn't be handing it as well as you processing it on the forum, and really thinking about what to do. I think it is a good time to clarify what result you most want, independently of her. Do you feel there is work left to do with her or is it time to move on- in the big picture?