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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
There were some issues with outside contact with both ex-T and my marriage counselor--one in the past, one in the present--which they offered for free and supposedly didn't have any limits on--until suddenly they did...so I really appreciate current T being straightforward with me. He also said he'd say early on if something I was doing/requesting bothers him instead of waiting till it became a big thing. That he's like that both with clients and people in his personal life. I appreciate that straightforwardness since one of my big issues is fearing people are mad/annoyed with me and not telling me till it becomes a big thing. !
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I think these are really great conversations to be having, and I'm glad you are able to speak openly about what you need and he is giving it what he can and he is being open about that as well. It sounds like you've moved leaps and bounds in this way.
I have sometimes felt that I am annoying, maddening, intrusive to other people. When checking it out with them-- and T was really helpful with this-- I found I was misinterpreting something about them (they were stressed or short on time) and thought it was about me (I was wanting too much from them). I think this is true probably a lot of time for a lot of people-- it's not that we want too much from people, it's that a lot of people are not able to give it. But sometimes I think that people feel guilty when they can't give people what they need, and that makes them blame other people for what they're asking for.