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Originally Posted by behindthemirror
I’m very cautious like you and have become more cautious over time due to negative experiences with being used, deceived, betrayed, etc. I’m of the opinion that it’s better to be “overly” cautious than not cautious enough - especially with allowing people close. Nothing wrong with being super discriminating. Personally, I’m happier and calmer without extra people around and have really trimmed down my social circle/interactions. Life is hard enough without unnecessary human drama!  Try not to doubt your instincts.
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Agree and I've had the same negative experiences. I am part to blame because some of those instances I actually had a gut feeling something was off but I ignored it. Then I regretted not listening. So I learned my lesson. And yeah, I'd rather be overly cautious than overly naive. I feel like if people see me as overly cautious, they may feel turned off but at the same time, I think it reduces the chances that they will treat me badly. They know I can't be filled. Meanwhile if I am too naive, they can easily fool and deceive me, even use me, and laugh behind my back saying I'm too stupid to realize what's happening. Yeah I have gotten a lot better at listening to my instincts.