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Originally Posted by TrailRunner14
My sense of this is messed up.
Attachment
Connection
Bonding
Affection
Why do all of these words have a feeling, to me, that I would owe someone something if I offered these words to someone?
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I struggle greatly with these words and concepts. As a parent I feel like I act these things out rather than feel them. There are times where this "acting" becomes apparent and I feel like I am revealed as an imposter. I hope what I have been able to give my children is "enough".
But for myself I don't feel a connection to any of those things. At the core of me I am not worthy of offering them to another person.
This internal shame and unchallengeable unworthiness is one of the primary reasons I am in therapy. Intellectually I don't believe I am any more unworthy than any one else. But emotionally it is an undeniable truth of my being. I don't want it to be this way forever.