You're not a failure because of your job status. Who cares if you have a job or not? Who is to judge? I think you are judging yourself by other people's standards, namely standards about what society expects. I could care less what people think as long as I am satisfied with myself. I just turned down an offer to work with an owner to build his business. The job was supposed to be about teaching in a school, not building someone else's business. I don't care if he is offering me more money because it was never in my agenda to be an events planner or a business developer. So, I am back to square one. I have only part-time jobs which are not much and don't earn much money. But, I am happy because I am doing what I want. Life is too short to waste on jobs that which you don't want to do unless you have to do them. I have a choice still because I have enough money still to do what I want. I could care less what others think. I may be an exception to others here. My happiness is not dependent on whether or not I have a job or having a man in my life. Finding happiness within is very important. Without it, a sense of despair or dissatisfaction is always there. I am free to do what I want. I am stable enough to be independent. I am healthy enough to not have any physical problems yet. I hope you find it within yourself to find peace and happiness despite your surroundings. It is all in the mind and spirit.