Yes! Thank you for your reply. One of the biggest things that made me think I couldn’t have DID was that I don’t lose time. Well, at least I never “knew in the moment,” like you said. Just yesterday I was talking to my friend and telling her she should come see my room since I repainted it, and she looked at me funny and said she did. I was a little shocked. I had no memory of her coming over, and that had to have happened only a week previous. At least with her I can honestly say I don’t remember, because she knows why, and I like to tell her when I can’t remember because she will fill me in. It might seem like a fluke if it didn’t happen so much. I thought there must’ve been another alter involved, and there was.
I’ve forgotten big group trips like that too. People relate stories to me and I find myself trying to play it off and also trying to get as much information as possible. My friend says I forget emotional conversations pretty regularly. I had a woman contact me on social media and say we went to high school together. I remembered her from the yearbook but she said we were good friends. I played like I remembered and got her to talk all about it. The person she described as me is not who I remember being, but clearly she had been my friend, and she knew all kinds of things about me but I couldn’t remember anything about her. Much later I met the alter who made friends for the System back then, and she was obviously the one described.
I lost time in the more immediate sense a couple months ago. I woke up one morning and had no memory of coming home or going to bed. Thankfully I knew which alters to ask about it.
I could go on and on. I can’t say I don’t lose time. I guess I just don’t notice it is gone until later. It feels validating to hear about someone else with a similar experience, and recognize that I do lose time.