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Old Jan 24, 2018, 05:28 AM
marie1988 marie1988 is offline
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes View Post
(((marie))) I am so sorry you experienced this challenge. Unfortunately, often the person that is involved in the cheating is a person's close friend too. It sounds to me like this friend was having some problems in her own marriage and saw you and your husband so happy and began to want what you had "literally" and she began putting moves on your husband. Also, sometimes what happens is how the so called "friend" subconsciously needs to destroy "your" perfect marriage so she can feel better about her own imperfect marriage. Human beings tend to do this where they try to bring down others so they don't feel so bad about whatever they are lacking.

You mentioned that you even "helped" this friend and you were nice to her too. Well, it sounds like she was unhappy and needy and you had the "power" to give. She doesn't have that kind of power. It sounds like she wanted what YOU have/had.


It's no wonder why you struggle with "trust" right now. You have your husband and you love him but he made you "question" how much HE values you and your relationship because he did eventually give in and cheated on you and put your relationship at risk.

He may deeply regret what he did and he may struggle with guilt about it too.

What has he said to you about what he did and how he feels about it?




we have had deep conversations about it all and he deeply is sorry he dosent even know why he did it he was saying at the start it was the attention she was giving him and because she was round most days he started to fancy her like she did him! we have cut all ties with her blocked and removed everything the hardest thing is i still have to see her when i go to take the kids to school!!! i havent seen her yet! i admit we have been so distracted lately with our new house we built the kids we just got stuck in routine and he was stressed out so much with everything .... we have been fine since working on things but i just dont want him to think just because we talking and being intimate he thinks its forgotten about i want him to realise what he could have lost!! i love him and know he loves me and we are believe it or not the best we have ever been so far!!! i have never seen him so affectionate and make me feel special the way he has done these last few weeks xx
Hugs from:
Bill3, Open Eyes
Thanks for this!
Open Eyes