Question is a bit open ended. i.e. Who's dying?

My 2nd wife knew she was dying. Knew for several years. No visible outward signs. She was living a normal life for the most part. Her death was not only expected by me, it was expected by her!

I can't imagine having to carry that knowledge at the age of 22. Expected does not always provide a chance for closure. I was lucky to have been with her, holding her hand, when she died. She did not die alone. I could just as easily been out of town, or she could have been at work. It happened quickly when it did. (40+ years ago.)

From her perspective:

"We're all dying and while I'm pretty sure I'm going before you, I have no idea when that will be."

In the end, even her "expected" death was "un-expected." There was no difference for me. She was still gone.