You have some valid questions. When we look at compatibility and how it relates to love languages, many simply just write it off without even learning what they need. I've always said its not about finding the perfect partner, but knowing your partner perfectly. I think that is key to keep the intimacy "between the ears". Everyone had certain needs in a certain way, and having a better understanding of them, is all part of that "equation". Everyone is unique in their own way, and every relationship has its own dynamic.
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Originally Posted by FinalSynapse
Love languages... Don't forget the different dialects and the slang ones. I would propose there are also alien versions, like Klingon... (Sorry, I just couldn't resist.) Now that you're aware they exist, does it change how you interact with your partner? Are you more conscious of the language, its inflection, how it's best expressed? Does that knowledge influence who you really are because, instead of being natural, you consider how to change your responses to ones which resonate more with your partner?
I'm not saying any of it is wrong, but I have to wonder...
If you need to dissect the expression and acceptance of love, to determine if it exists, is it really love, or just an equation?
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