Yea, well put, couldn't agree more.

Also the eye gazing thing... found it totally nuts when i finally stopped to think about it. Seems this sort of direct eye contact can really destabilize people. And confuse too, since it's so incongruent with the situation (artificial, paid relationship). Seems to bypass rational thought and telegraph all sorts of messages that are not intended. And then thearpists wonder why the client is getting the "wrong idea", and frame this as a sure sign of an attachment "disorder" or some such excrement. Playing with fire.