No you are NOT expecting too much but if yiyr partner has never provided reasonable emotional support for yiu in your relationship it msy be that you ate expecting something he is & always has been incapable of giving.

Ehen my mom was dying of cancer, my husband gsve no rmotional support & ehen I told him about the abuses I caught the home care person doing, he looked at me like I was out if my mind & gave me absolutely NO emotional support. He must have felt that taking care of our home & my new foal that had been injured at 3 weeks old was ALL he was required to do but NEVER in our 33 years if marriage did he ever provide emotional support. Everything he did was just that he knew it was the right thing to do but never did anything with feeling involved. It was something I finslly noticed after all those years when I was in the medical hospital with anirexia after going through the trauma that happened from that home care person I caught abusing my mom.

What I finally realized was that I could just accept that this was the way life was going to be forever (there were other serious financial issues in our marriage also) or I ciuld realize I had enough & leave.

We had already gone through T together & the relationship was becoming toxically abusive on both sides by that point.

Yes, it is wonderful to get emotional support & expect it normally unless tbe partner is incapable dome how of giving it.

Marriage/partner counseling might be a gooe way to express your needs & have the T as a mediator work on ways to get the relationship more acceptable to both. Its sleays worth a try before saying one has had enough & call it quits like I finally did for my own well being phyducal & mental