I encourage you to try to ask directly. You don't have to do so right away, or at all, but I hope you'll eventually feel secure enough with your T to be able to ask.

Maybe hand T a note? I know it's scary.

Asking directly is vulnerable, yet can also pay off because it's much more clear to T. Even though we might really prefer they offer.

My T has offered rare phone check ins ("you can ask the clinic to ask me to call you") but I never knew when I could call until I asked her directly and talked with her about what I wanted in order to cope better.

T also has given me two transitional objects because I asked for them. If I hadn't asked, she might not have ever understood my hints.

I know sometimes we do really want T to offer because it feels "needy" to ask (and often we've been shamed to think of it as shameful), and maybe you worry like I do that T doesn't really want to do it, or T would offer.

My T often likes to tell me not to assume things. Example, for a very long time, I assumed I could not ask her for a transitional object because my ex T who was my first T refused when I did ask. And it turns out that if I'd asked... I could have had a transitional object way earlier.

And yes I did ask her a few times also if she really was OK offering phone check-ins sometimes, if she was really really OK with giving me both transitional objects.

Of course I was scared to ask out of fear of rejection. So I didn't ask for a long time. Until eventually my desire to maintain the connection via a transitional object outweighed my fear of rejection.

Take your time to write that note or how you might phrase that ask. Wishing you luck!