Years ago I met a T. I connected with them on a very deep level. So deep it was painful and I hated it. I knew that if couldn't change the way I felt then I would have to see some-one else. Luckily for me he went away on vacation for many months. In that time I was able to get my head on straight and the pain went. Push it down into a black hole. Professional boundaries and all that.

Mostly in my life I don't connect with others on any sort of level. My lack of connection to people in general is something that I want to discuss and work on. When I started to discuss this with him this week he said that he felt a connection when we first met. I said that I felt a connection back then but it was gone now. Didn't even think it was about the transference stuff either.

My question is - Is transference a good thing in therapy and do I need to talk about what happened all those years ago - Or do I just continue without telling him?