ok,ok,ok. Yes, she needs a job, I understand. My suggestion is to not judge oneself by one's job. Yes, she needs a job. Yes, may be any job will do. However, I am hoping she can find something she likes. If she wanted to just work, I'm sure she can find a job. However, she is being choosy, and I don't blame her for being choosy. I do need to work too but have lowered my standards of living to have more freedom in choosing which jobs I want to do. Yes, having a job is important but it should not be the end all and be all of one's existence. She may one day have the job she wants. I am wishing this for her! But, to say that jobs make one's existence and determine how you feel is not helpful either. Yes, she needs to eat and needs to work. May be she may take a job she does not want to do so. I would not judge her as being any less if she had the job she wanted. She should not judge herself by the job she has and others should not either. So, my point is not that she should not have a job or have a job but rather about judging oneself by the job she has. So, may be you are right in encouraging Golden Eve to take any job, but this is her life and her business. She has the right to choose her job that comes her way and we should not tell her that she will be better off emotionally or mentally because she has a job, but tell her that it may help pay the bills and put food on the table. You are misconstruing my message and my point. I fully encourage her to do what she wants but to tell her she will be happier with any job is not helpful either.