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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
I can't tell -- I am not sure what's real and what's not.
I've seen her get rather angry at me. As well as frustrated, seemingly passive-aggressive and resentful.
And, deny all of it.
And, I've also seen her express what seemed like rather out-of-the-way kinda concern and care about me and essentially sort of be amused by me.
Currently, it seems to be all in a weird place with her subtly (and sometimes even overtly) insisting that all she's feeling is warm, fuzzy maternal-ish stuff when in fact, I've told her (and had her deny it) that I'm picking up resentment as well along with the seemingly warm fuzzies.
Anyhow.
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I had to comment on this. It's crazymaking, not knowing if it's an overlay of old family dynamics or if it's really happening. Mine is not warm and fuzzy like yours is, but I do get mixed signals that she denies. I have learned to just drop it, shut my feelings off, and plow ahead, which is maybe an old coping mechanism that's not good...or maybe it's exactly what's needed.