I agree that it would be a positive step to just tell t that there is something that you have been wanting to tell them but can’t yet. It takes some of the scariness out of it. Maybe you won’t be ready for a year, but at least it is out there. I have some issues that I am not able to talk about yet, too. My t does not badger me about it, but I know she will be ready when I am. I’m thinking of you as you process this.