My experience with transference is that it has brought out the full range of emotions from extreme pain and longing to euphoric joy/happiness; fear to security.. and so on. It has not been a linear process so I can feel secure one session and scared later in that session or next session to even ambivalent about the whole thing. It's not been just the extremes. I feel the range of feelings. I feel many things I didn't have memories of feeling.

I believe it has provided healing moments, insights, and better understanding of myself. I also feel like it is helping me understand how to connect to other people and what a connection means.

How much you talk to him about and how much you allow the transference to occur is up to you. Your statement of:

leads me to think that yes, you should talk about it if you want to work on it with other people, so that you have better understanding why it happened for you, what it took from you to force it to go, and so on.

Transference happens in many relationships not just with T's and I believe that if you are not aware of what is going on, it affects many different relationships that pass through your life (boss, co-worker, friend, partner,... ).