Agree with everything said above. Din't fall for his manipulation. Takibg respinsibility fir one's choices & behaviors would show a mature person who really wanted the marriage to work not blamibg you for what he did.

I woukd never stay married or kuve with a person who behaved that way. Go ahead with the divorce. Don't waste yiyr money cancellung ut because yiu will regret it & be right back where you are now in a short period of time..

Get the divorce. If he really lives you & wants the marriage, he can PROVE he has changed AFTER yiu are divorced. Lots of people have been remaried after divorce if a change has really taken place. It is good to make yoyr statement that you WILL NOT TOLERATE that behavior from him & folliw through don't just use it as a threat