Just to update you all ! things are still going ok with me and my partner he is doing everything for me some have said to me this believe it or not can make your relationship stronger and turn out better we have now gone from 7 years with kids to having no us time to now having time for ourselves family are willing to have kids overnight so we can do things as a couple things we have never got to do before which is nice not that it will solve everything that has happened but he has even spoken to me saying he will never do this again he could of lost everything he loves etc the list goes on xx