A friend recently went to see a therapist for the first time and commented that he didn't think he'd be going back. One of the top reasons he listed for not wanting to see that T again was that she smokes. My initial reaction was that he was being ridiculous, he was looking for excuses, everyone's human, no one's perfect etc.

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that my T would lose a lot of her standing with me if she smoked. I wouldn't feel like she had it together. I would have a harder time hearing her tell me to prioritize my wellbeing for example. Would or do you care?