If he says things that remind me of the things my abusive husband said to me, I feel triggered. He's not doing it on purpose. He just wanders into my personal mine field. He managed to hit three land mines recently, all within a week. I found the courage to tell him that he was reminding me of my husband and I was terrified he was going to start verbally abusing me like he did. I know he won't but at the same time I'm scared he will.