Wow Star, when it rains it pours. With all of the things going on right not maybe your daughter is reacting to all of the stress in the house as well. I don't know how old she is, but whining is a typical reaction to her little world being shaken. They're perceptive little things and she may not be able to verbalize the fact that she too is feeling overwhelmed.

I am assuming that your husband is in the Reserves. It's been a while since I've had to deal with the military, but I seem to recall that the Red Cross can help you out there. If your doctor is willing to document the fact that your husband is vital to your care, and that of your daughter's I think that the Red Cross can be of assistance.

They've got a lot of clout, I've been on a plane that had to turn around and return to base because the Red Cross had a message for a soldier on the plane. It was an interesting situation, there was a Colonel on the plane that said we were going and the Red Cross said we were turning around, we turned around.

Hang in there! Things will level out soon.