ok, i get you know.... yes... absolutely, we all do it and most people are never aware they do it.. they don't say, wow that must hurt... instead they say so that was like i did X blah blah blah

had that happen here last night in chat.... i was in a bad state of mind and very ditressed... a couple of friends were listening, they were trying to help and it was so appreciated. i needed care and someone to listen... but another member who "who does not have a mental health issue"(yeah, puuuuuhleeeeze) Decided to "therapize" and evangalize me. i didn't need CBT ********, i needed validation and acknowledgement. i dont come here for text book pat answers, i come for the support and to listen to others pain too. i was absolutely irrate... in my state of distress her idiotic and thoughtless blabbering could have pushed me over the edge. i wish to god people would think about that before they open their yaps.

they teach active listening to emergency workers and hotline people... maybe you wouod get something out of that? is there a book maybe you could take to your T? i think the last thing you say is a better explanation