I live quite far from my mom so when she comes to visit, she stays for a few weeks at least. I hear from all my friends with moms that live afar, that they take over the house...or at least help out with cleaning, cooking, laundry, whatever needs to be done.

I have the exact opposite experience! I end up waiting on my mom day and night. It's honestly like having another child in the house. For example, she leaves her dishes at the table for me to clean up. She waits until I'm doing the laundry to throw hers in the pile. She won't even make her own coffee in the morning (no one else drinks coffee so I'm literally making it just for her.) Forget about offering to cook anything...

Every time I try to encourage her to pitch in a little, she says "oh, its your home, I'm just a guest."

It's not like I expect her to turn into a housemaid, but sometimes I hear about these more typical "helpful moms" and I'm so jealous. Even the kids are getting lax on their chores since she arrived.

BTW, I was NOT raised the way she is now acting. I had a long list of chores growing up with the expectation that everyone in the house contributes. AND, I've seen for myself how my grandma would come to visit us when I was little and she was always a "helpful mom."

Does anyone else have this experience with their mom? Am I completely ungrateful for wishing I had a more "normal" mom?

I'm posting mostly to let off steam, I guess. And to see if there is anyone that actually knows what i'm going through...