Molesters/abusers rely on manipulating their victims into feeling guilty or ashamed. You were the victim... it is not your fault. It never was your fault, and it never will be.

I felt guilty about things that my uncle did to me; so much that I couldn't tell my husband about that part of my past for years. You are a survivor. Your grandfather was the sick, abusive and guilty one.

*big hugs*

I hope that you and your grandmother can find healing together.