My T has been clear from the very beginning that it is I that knows my life stories not her. I am the only one that knows how I experienced, retained, remembered the events of my life. She also has been very clear that this process is painful and refers to it as neurosurgery without anesthesia. She acknowledges my pain through the process and readily admits that there is no magic wands. She would disagree with you on the concept of no treatment and no words to make things better, that hopefully over the long haul through the process/path, the changes would make the hurt be manageable. She would agree that there is no way to make the hurt go away as long as we are living/alive.