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Ditto over here. I am the same way and I know it is because of unmet needs from childhood as I never had a parent who actually wanted me, cherished my brith or made me feel special. It was clear at my first ability to remember that I was not wanted and a burden. So since a T in therapy treats you like you are the most important thing in the room for that one hour it hits an empty space that has never been filled. But it is an illusion because the therapist can not fill that space. That space is emptied the minute you walk out the door.
If that T pisses you off for some reason you close off that empty space to that person and do not allow them to occupy that space for the time being.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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