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and did you chose the gender of you therapist and why?
I refuse to see a female therapist because I have hostility towards female therapist. I think it is because my mother was the abuser and I can not relax with a female in a power differential situation. I also know men therapist cause me to attach to them quickly perhaps because I did not have a male guardian in my life but I did have a step father that was abusive so I cant figure this out.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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