I was abused by my mother and father so I have issues with both but when I was looking for a therapist basically I was looking for someone who had the skills to help me with my trauma. It just so happened that the one I chose who took my insurance and have the necessary skills was male. I've been very pleased with him. He is always very mindful and respectful to the fact that he is a man and I am a woman with an abusive past. He stays is distance he always ask permission to come closer and he always ask permission to voice his opinion on something. He told me a few times that he's always mindful the way he responds to people with abusive past so that he does not come off as too forceful for pushy.

My previous therapist was female but she did not have the skills to help me. She also self-disclose a lot and gave her opinions on things outside of therapy even when I didn't agree with them. That was actually one of the reasons I stopped meeting with her.

For me I guess it doesn't really matter whether they're male or female it's more about the individuals approach.