I have used pretty much anything she's given me as a transitional object at one time or another - business cards, emails, voice mails, things she's written in my notebook. The 2 biggest things I use now is a bracelet that I already owned that is very similar to one that she wears, so not even from her. It just reminds me of her. I can look at it and then remember the one on her wrist and how it looks on her wrist. The other is a letter I compiled from her emails to me for my birthday and had her sign.

As far as asking, I can't, couldn't which is why I think I created them all. She brought the concept up to me first even though I had read about it here. At that time, I just kind of shined it on. When I did finally bring it up to her that I did this (created all these transitional objects) she said that maybe we created them together.