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Old Jan 27, 2018, 06:52 PM
Fisto Fisto is offline
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Originally Posted by ArchieAus View Post
I don't have an attention deficit disorder so wouldn't presume to understand how that interacts with your frustration . Listening is an underrated passive form of communication . You listen to the actual words and observe the non verbal communication . The tone , the expression . It's a great way to understand a person better , for whatever reasons you have for wanting to understand them better . Unfortunately when it comes to talking you are at the mercy of the person you are interactive with . If they don't wish to listen , believe they have listened long enough or can't or won't identify with what your saying , then your unlikely to get a positive reaction from demanding they listen . Is that fair ? , it would depend on each individual case I guess . When you write , no one gets to interrupt.
You are correct about the writing. I find myself writing letters all the time now. Especially if it's a important subject. I guess my question is, are good listeners recognized by people that want to talk and don't want to listen? I ask this because I feel like people who don't want to listen to anything, including the answers to their own questions, are gravitating towards me. regardless of the answer to that question, I'm going to have to live with it. Most importantly though, I need ways to let people know that I'm being interrupted and I think it's rude, without making them feel like I'm being a jerk. I'm certainly not demanding that anyone listens to me. Although getting cut off in sentences is taxing when it's ongoing and it's hard for me to hide my frustration which manifests into my partner getting upset with me. She sees this scenario as me being impatient and not wanting to listen to anyone. Perhaps it's cause the eye roll comes when she or someone is talking because I've already been interrupted and she might be associating the eye roll with what she or someone else is saying and not my response to the interrupting. Or if I say hey I was just interupted, I kind of have to interrupt her to do that. I'm talking about letting someone run wild for five minutes without me talking and then me getting mowed down after getting five words out. I've found some peace in just nodding after a rant and saying I hear ya. That's been working the best. But I do have to talk about things sometimes and I literally have to get to my points and I never can. It happens with a lot of people and my hurdle is getting my points across without making someone feel like crap. It's this cycle of me having to interrupt someone to tell them I've been interrupted. I become the interuptter because I was the last one to interrupt in every scenerio.