I'm not sure I have a preference individually at least. When we were looking for MC I wanted a woman. I think subconsciously I knew this was something not OK in my marriage and wanted to feel more connected through gender to the MC.

For my current T it just happened organically that I happened upon something she had written that struck a cord with me and so I reached out to her. She was the first T I ever really formed a bond with, and ultimately I think I'm happier with a female but it wasn't something I sought out.