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Old Jan 27, 2018, 09:28 PM
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Originally Posted by lucozader View Post
Those of you who have transitional objects... Do they really help? Do they ease the yearning, help you feel connected to your T when you're not with them?

(I'm too embarrassed to ask too...)
For me yes.

One of mine is a note in her handwriting. I asked for a note in her handwriting during a phone check in, and she decided in the next session that we'd craft the words together.

On it are short phrases. One is "you are not just a case number, I care about you as a person" and she signed it and wrote her name.

Looking at it reminds me that she cares, that it's OK to be a part of each others life... (as therapist and client, also I "like" her posts on her public instagram because those glimpses of her help me remember she's real and human)...and that we can have email contact when therapy ends because I want to be able to update her, not totally lose her.

That piece of paper is fragile and worn now so I look at a photo on my smartphone which I took of it.

I asked for my second one too. I wanted to know if I had any good qualities because I feel I have none. It's a calligraphy card from an artist she and I both like, with the words "Beautiful, bold and brave." with reminders to be self compassionate, to be in Wise Mind, to fight my inner critic with her and to "accept harsh realities and know that you're not defined by them alone."

My ex T didn't do transitional objects. I'd wanted her to pick a marble out of several I had to "charge" it. But she said she would have to ask her supervisor first and the supervisor advised that it "fosters dependency" so no... I hesitated to ask current T for a long time because of that.
Hugs from:
Elio
Thanks for this!
Elio, LonesomeTonight, lucozader, RaineD