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Old Jan 28, 2018, 11:17 AM
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Originally Posted by lucozader View Post
Those of you who have transitional objects... Do they really help? Do they ease the yearning, help you feel connected to your T when you're not with them?

(I'm too embarrassed to ask too...)
Also too embarrassed to ask...though I did ask him for a business card in one of our first sessions partly for that reason. He didn't ask why I wanted it, just gave it to me. I have one from MC from an early session on which he'd written the date/time of our next appointment that used to comfort me when I saw it in my wallet. Maybe I should have asked T to write something on his...but I feel weird doing that.

And I had my own stuffed animal (the elephant) that I sort of assigned to MC and would snuggle with sometimes. Well, I guess he assigned it to himself in a way, because when I told him about snuggling with it for comfort when I was upset about something with him, he was like, "The elephant was me, right?" (this was during our second individual session to deal with transference). I've tried a couple for T (ones my D ignores), but none have seemed quite right. Maybe a gazelle or something because he has some wooden ones in his office? Or I guess a fish since he has the betta fish in there, too.
Thanks for this!
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