Starry, i agree you dont have to defend yourself. You certainly do have say in what kind of relationships you have.

I get that it is hard to say no and set limits. It is easier to just cut off the relationship. Why did you accept the dvd? That sounds like something i would do, frankly. Like i would say, no thanks no thanks no thanks, but the other person would insist. Some people just wont accept limits, or its like they WANT to make you feel uncomfortable. I think i missed that on my first reading. Im sorry.