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Originally Posted by hopealwayz
This was the email:
It’s more a question of boundaries. People can change their minds and others have to adjust and give space. My guess is with S and other therapists and other psychiatrists and other people the issue of discomfort for them has been boundaries. Calling or texting or emailing or contacting them either between appointments or way, way more than usual patients. When they pull away you get worried and press even harder; then they pull totally away because they’re either scared or annoyed.
I’m fine, but we need to work on this-
I got upset and wrote him back and that’s when I told him that I was quitting. He obviously hasn’t listened to why I left my last few therapists.
My original PDOC and I ended up falling apart because of my transference and feelings for him. My T from earlier last year couldn’t treat me because he didn’t have enough experience. I left my last regular PDOC due to a disagreement over a medication change.
The other Ts and psychiatrists that I’ve been to haven’t really impressed me.
T said he was fine and that I can continue to email him but now I feel like a burden. Why does he keep insisting my emails are not a problem and then send me an email like that?
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I think he is saying to try and create some boundaries for yourself so you don't become too dependent, don't email a ton etc... maybe limit yourself to 2 max a week. Boundaries are something ALL of us deal with in therapy, therapists are allowed to create what makes them comfortable and ask us to follow that.
He may have also been referring to why he suspected previous T's were upset or whatever, they thought it was too much but didn't say anything. If you want to quit over this, that is your choice but if you want to keep at it, just limit yourself on outside contact, it may be hard but it is important to do. Remember it's not a personal reflection on you, ALL his clients have the same boundaries.