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Originally Posted by hopealwayz
This was the email:
It’s more a question of boundaries. People can change their minds and others have to adjust and give space. My guess is with S and other therapists and other psychiatrists and other people the issue of discomfort for them has been boundaries. Calling or texting or emailing or contacting them either between appointments or way, way more than usual patients. When they pull away you get worried and press even harder; then they pull totally away because they’re either scared or annoyed.
I’m fine, but we need to work on this-
I got upset and wrote him back and that’s when I told him that I was quitting. He obviously hasn’t listened to why I left my last few therapists.
My original PDOC and I ended up falling apart because of my transference and feelings for him. My T from earlier last year couldn’t treat me because he didn’t have enough experience. I left my last regular PDOC due to a disagreement over a medication change.
The other Ts and psychiatrists that I’ve been to haven’t really impressed me.
T said he was fine and that I can continue to email him but now I feel like a burden. Why does he keep insisting my emails are not a problem and then send me an email like that?
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This sounds like he's more trying to explain what happened in your other experiences, rather than what's going on with him now. I imagine he's going to want to try to work with you to figure out why you've done so much contact with other T's in the past and what you could do so you don't feel that need. However, I think it's something he should have brought up in session, not sent you in an e-mail.
Note that I was recently told by my marriage counselor that I need to reduce outside contact--and that was extremely painful for me--so I get how difficult talking about boundaries is. I think your T wants to help you here, not push you away.