((((((((((((( allautumn ))))))))))))))) you're such a good friend.

in my opinion, this isn't one of those situation's where he talked and the "ball is now in your court". that ball should remain in his court to toss when he feels he can. in other words, he trusted you to tell you. he'll tell you more if he wants or talk to you more about it if he needs. i wouldn't ask him more, etc at this point. one thing, is his current life pretty stable? if not, i would handle this differently than i'm saying now.

i would totally leave it all up to him at this point. i might, when you think he's feeling safe, tell him that you're there for him and ask if he'd considered counseling to deal with this memory and the abuse that happened to him.

you were so wonderful to him...as a fellow survivor of childhood abuse...i want to say thank you.

be safe and let us know.

kd