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RACEKA said:
Either your attached or your not.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think there are different degrees of attachment. It' s not all black and white. At one point, I was very, very attached to my T, maybe kind of unhealthily obsessed. I thought of him constantly, wondered where he lived, what he was doing, what he was thinking, etc. But I passed through that "crush" phase and am now in a strong and comfortable attachment. I do not think of him all the time or wonder where he lives or look at his photos on my computer incessantly, or listen constantly to the mp3 I have of him singing or his voicemail message like I used to. He does not "constantly nag at my mind." Just frequently, lol. I'm just more at ease with it all. I feel very very close to him and attached, but not obsessed. For me it's a different degree of attachment, maybe not "less" but still strong, yet healthier. It's kind of like I've passed through the infatuation phase into the comfortable love phase. Although unique, it does share some similarities with other relationships.