ummmm Lennie-- I hope you don't mind this sort of "hijack" of your original post-- just related so much to what "doh" said here-- </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
I also developed a false self in an effort to please her.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> my gosh!!! that is just what I said yesterday in therapy!! I'm not kidding-- were you a fly on the wall??
I told T. that I have come to hate that other self. ... the other- lets people take advantage of her, lets them say mean things without a word of defense-- yuk.

Doh, it sure sounds like you have progressed leaps and bounds-- I think that is wonderful and so are you!

thanks Lennie-- hope you are doing OK today.

mandy