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Originally Posted by Elio
Nope, not pathetic. For my last birthday, I took lines from various emails T had sent me and patched together a letter from T and asked her to read it and sign it for me so that she'd give me a present for my birthday.
How's that for asking for a "need" or "want" to be met. Is it pathetic to ask for something we need or want? I know it can feel pathetic, I know I call myself, my wants/needs, or my actions pathetic. Maybe they are not as pathetic as we(me) thinks, but acts of self-loving. At what point does doing something that is self-loving become pathetic even if it can't be met by the person you ask? Is it pathetic just because the person we ask cannot meet the request?
Some things to ponder.
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Thanks, Elio. I do have a big hangup about seeming pathetic. Two sessions ago with T, both when talking about the teacher and MC, I started a story by, "This is going to sound really pathetic, but..." (The one was about keeping a soda can that the teacher had bought me, and the other was listening many times to a voicemail MC had left me a couple years ago.) The second time I was saying it, I realized I'd said the "pathetic" thing again, and was like, "I need to stop prefacing things like that," and T gave this odd little laugh sound, like, "hee!" but higher-pitched--it's hard to explain (he's done it before). Like he's trying to keep from reacting but can't. But anyway, yeah, I worry about being pathetic. MC once told me it's not pathetic to have needs, too, that we all have needs.