Maybe it would help to know where your parents got their values from.

I’ve come to realize my parents values, that I too had, were heavily steeped in religion & morality. Such as make a good decision or there will be punishment for it.
To me, everything in life revolved around whether I was living according to these rules. And would probably die by these rules which now I don’t accept.
I now try to live according to my own principles & how I define them which I find more difficult then standard rules.
Not sure that makes sense.