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Originally Posted by leomama
How long does it take to heal from emotional and psychological abuse?
I know the first step is to end the abusive relationship. Then what? Even after you have ended the relationship that person still lives on in your memories.
If you have broken a trauma bond and are healing form it I would love to hear from you.
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leomama,
I came on to get info re redness/flushing, headache & anxiety.
my x is
'leaning' into me hard' again altho we r separated (it seems that he is angry that I am slowly getting on with my life, altho he moved on with his), so
i feel the emotional abuse even tho relationship is over. we are parents so even tho I want NOTHING to do with him, child is used as means to contact (intend to address that too).
The only thing I can think of to answer your question is that healing varies relative to individuals.
we all have different brains, conditioning, socialization - so even if we share similar traumas, we all
internalize & experience differently.Its a toughie to answer since I dont think there is one clear answer.
i do agree with
therapy & it is also
important to note that we CAN change our brains 
depending on the therapy, approach we take & what is th erg t'fit' for us on a personal level. starfruit is right - it takes time.we are lucky to be part of this era where neuroscience is proving that we can change ...
mind you healing brain/mind is not as simple as body
... BUT if you get help,
emotional support, practice new habits, new ways of thinking, less toxic ppl.
more little successes, then you are literally growing new networks.
it isn't easy, but possible.
i am only embarking on this myself now that it is over. Overtime, whenever i managed a little success, he undermined .. so it is more challenging if there are children involved.
(i got advice 4 that here at forum recently
)
there will be good & bad days but release as many negatives from your life to help you get started. Good luck with your endeavours. Best