I realized as I re-read my post that a lot more details are needed. I was upset and cut it short.

As I said, he has broken 4 of my phones now. Once he flipped a table when he was frustrated and looking for his keys. At first he tried to say it was an accident, which I didn't believe for a second because it's a long, squat, heavy coffee table that doesn't just go over with a slight shove. There were a lot of things on the table, including drinks which almost ruined my Nintendo 3DS. He never admitted he was out of line for that one either.
At one point during the current conflict, he told me that if we broke up I should be the one to move out, and that our roommate said "she thinks what you're doing is ****ed up too, and said she would rather stay with me." I asked her about it later and she admitted that she told him she would rather stay with him because he has the car, but that she didn't take a side on our argument or use the words "****ed up".
So one of them is lying.

He got irrationally jealous one time when I went to visit our roommate before she lived with us. She had just moved, and invited me over. She didn't tell me until I was on my way that she had a male roommate. No big deal, right? I told my boyfriend and he flipped out, saying it wasn't right for me to go to "some guy's" apartment. When clearly I was visiting my friend, and didn't even know there would be someone else there.

He belittles me when I try to talk about my mental health, and more than once has accused me of seeking an excuse for my laziness, trying to pass it off as mental illness.

He limits my access to other people, like my coworkers and even my mom. I would say that 90% of the time I or we get invited to something, he has an excuse not to go. He's too tired, he doesn't like those people, etc. He does not respect my mother at all, and though I agree with him on some of her flaws, he really doesn't make an effort to be liked by her. I had to talk him into Thanksgiving dinner at her house, when we had no other plans.

He breaks things and slams doors and drives aggressively when he's angry even though I've told him countless times that it gives me anxiety and isn't an appropriate response for a grown man. He always minimizes and says it's not like he's hitting me or screaming in my face. Just the other day when I stated my case again he accused me of being materialistic, said if I was this upset over a broken phone then my phone must matter to me more than him. I pushed down my anger and said that it's not about the phone, it's about the action and the intent. And his response was that the action shouldn't concern me because he didn't hurt me, and that he didn't intend to do it but was driven to it by my actions.

And it's always his way or no way. As he is illustrating again by refusing to go to counseling with me. His idea is to help me make new friends that he will approve of. My way is counseling, which he just keeps saying is a waste.