Hi everyone. I don't really post much, but I have a question. Do any of you have a problem discussing sexual issues with your opposite sex T? I feel that it would be awkward, or possibly even cross some kind of boundary. The issues don't involve any type of attraction or feelings toward the T, but are just past events that are affecting me now. We have been circling the issue for a few sessions, and I have come to the point that I think some more in depth explanation may be necessary for moving forward. T doesn't pressure me to give details, so maybe T doesn't want to know? Or maybe T thinks my spouse should be present when talking about sex? (That really isn't something I want...I need to be able to be open without worrying about hurting my spouse.) I don't know how to go about divulging these things, though, because I just feel dirty and ashamed when bringing them up to someone of the opposite sex.

I don't know if it would help to talk to a same sex T, and so much progress has been made that I wouldn't consider changing T's right now anyway. Maybe it could be a benefit, even, to open up to someone of the opposite sex who is safe and won't hurt me. Any thoughts?